Thursday, October 04, 2012

Jennifer Livingston Takes on Fatphobia

Jennifer Livingston is a morning anchor for a television station in Lacrosse, Wisconsin. She recently received a fat-phobic bullying e-mail and decided to use it as an opportunity to speak out against bullying. She did an excellent job, in my opinion.

I'm 5'5" and a size 2. Even though men are usually portrayed as being most attracted to ultra-skinny women, my experience has suggested otherwise. I get the most flirts, second glances, and compliments when I'm heavier. I remember one summer I got up to 145 lbs and I couldn't believe how different men reacted to me. I felt like a walking, talking love goddess!

I haven't dated a skinny person since high school and I've always preferred partners who are obese (according to the charts). I love the silky softness of every embrace, the abundance of places to kiss and explore, and I think that a substantial body suggests a certain durability that any lover should be able to appreciate. I honestly don't understand how anyone could NOT like having more of their partner to love.

It bugs the hell out of me when people assume that being skinny means I will laugh at their fat-phobic "jokes" and comments. I won't. I think it's disgusting, because I'm not shallow enough to believe that weight equals worth. The best way to make me stay as far away from you as I can is to start praising women just for being skinny or dismissing women who aren't skinny. Ugh! I'm glad that there are folks like my "obese" partner who see through the bull$h*t obsession with weight and understand that there is so much more to love (no pun intended...or maybe it is).

1 comment:

Rootietoot said...

I wanted to cheer, cry, and throw confetti over Ms Livingston's video. As a person who is "obese" (I am 5'5" and hovering around a size 18) I live constantly with the message from EVERYWHERE that I am a joke, unlovable, unattractive, and probably stupid. I see magazines calling size 10 women "plus sized", and "plus sized" clothing catalogs using size 6 models. Way to show me how those clothes *really* look on someone, y'all. To steal Dr. King's concept, I look forward to the day when people are judged not by the size of their bodies, but by the content of their hearts. I have gotten over being hurt by it all, but it took a long, long time. I ache for the young women who buy into the notion that they are not attractive unless they fit the mold set out by the fashion industry.