You know, I've been trying to write a particular post for a few days now. It's about how some members of the transgender community have been calling for a boycott of two popular feminist sites.
For some reason, I just haven't been able to get out my feelings about this. I know there has been some disagreement about what sort of strategies are most likely to result in success. Heck, I'm not even sure what "success" would look like in this situation.
I stopped reading Feministing a long time ago. That place has long been a cesspool of white privilege and body privilege. The two Valenti sisters are both assholes who have a long track record of poor treatment towards marginalized groups. I'm not surprised that anyone would want to boycott their site. I've been boycotting it and will continue to do so.
My feelings about Feministe are more complicated. I have asked to guest post there twice and I really appreciated the opportunity to do so. It was really great to be able to discuss disability rights issues with an audience of that size. As much as I wish it weren't so, people with disabilities (PWD) just don't get many chances to do that. That's one reason why I feel less certain that boycotting Feministe is the best decision to make right now.
On the one hand, cisgender women need to show support for those who are relatively more marginalized (i.e. transgender women). A real ally doesn't disappear into the shadows when it comes time to make the tough decisions. I think that those calling for a boycott are making valid arguments. In other words, it's not just some petty gripe.
On the other hand, I do believe that people with disabilities should not have to sacrifice our voice for any reason. I want people to hear about how my sisters and brothers with disabilities are being treated in this country and around the world. I want to be visible in a world that does it's best to warehouse and silence people like me. I want to use every opportunity possible to speak out and say that what is done to us is wrong, even if it won't make anyone change their mind or their actions. Feministe is one of the largest feminist outlets online that allows me to do that.
I'm really conflicted about this. The more I think about it, the more I feel like I need input from others because I'm just not confident about what would be the best thing to do.