Shh...The term Sex Positive? Guess what? I think it sucks. Yep. I do. I think it is a stupid, problematic and often inflammatory term. Now sure, I don’t scare if people call me slut and all so I might have a bent view on the topic, but yes, I think “Sex Positive” is well, just a really, really idiotic term.You know, I think I may have referred to myself as sex positive maybe once or twice but the term never really seemed to represent how I see myself. I don't know what term would give someone an idea how I tend to view sex and sexuality.
I don't really watch porn, but I'm not against it. I think sex work should be legal, but the only way I could ever see myself being a sex worker is if I could work exclusively with people with disabilities and that's mostly because I think so many of us are viewed as non-sexual as if having a disability means you don't have the same needs and desires as everyone else. I'm in a sexually monogamous relationship, but I'm not against altering the terms of our commitment to each other if my partner was ever interested in doing so. I find (some forms of) BDSM really cathartic, but don't really engage in it to any serious extent because my partner freaks out and switches back into caretaker mode if it looks like I'm short of breath or in pain.
So what terms might make for a good replacement for the sometimes problematic "sex positive" label? I'm going to have to think on that one.