Saturday, January 10, 2009

Substitutes for "Sex Positivity"

Renegade Evolution has shared a secret on her blog.
Shh...The term Sex Positive? Guess what? I think it sucks. Yep. I do. I think it is a stupid, problematic and often inflammatory term. Now sure, I don’t scare if people call me slut and all so I might have a bent view on the topic, but yes, I think “Sex Positive” is well, just a really, really idiotic term.
You know, I think I may have referred to myself as sex positive maybe once or twice but the term never really seemed to represent how I see myself. I don't know what term would give someone an idea how I tend to view sex and sexuality.

I don't really watch porn, but I'm not against it. I think sex work should be legal, but the only way I could ever see myself being a sex worker is if I could work exclusively with people with disabilities and that's mostly because I think so many of us are viewed as non-sexual as if having a disability means you don't have the same needs and desires as everyone else. I'm in a sexually monogamous relationship, but I'm not against altering the terms of our commitment to each other if my partner was ever interested in doing so. I find (some forms of) BDSM really cathartic, but don't really engage in it to any serious extent because my partner freaks out and switches back into caretaker mode if it looks like I'm short of breath or in pain.

So what terms might make for a good replacement for the sometimes problematic "sex positive" label? I'm going to have to think on that one.

5 comments:

whatsername said...

This is not to in any way critisize your looking for a term that hits home with you, but simply a musing on my part...

What's problematic about "sex positive"?

I mean I've heard some radical feminists complain that it casts them as necessarily "sex negative" but imo that's a load of bollocks.

dmarks said...

I'd not heard of the "sex positive" label before, so I have no preconceptions and might be able to look at it more objectively.

It doesn't sound too bad, and there are probably worse labels. Once you get past the "____ positive" phrasology which so often means that you had a test and were shown to have been using a drug or have contracted a disease.

H├ęctor said...

Honestly, I'd never heard of that term. It seems to imply what dmarks said. It also seems to imply something like "sex negativity"...

DaisyDeadhead said...

Can't we just say we're all too sexy for our shirts?

:D

libhom said...

I think a lot of people in this society are sex negative, in terms of ideology. We have a long way until we overcome the influence of religious brainwashing.