The funny thing about this is, when I've participated in predominantly black forums (online and off), I've been castigated more times than I can count for not being willing to deny or ignore the non-black parts of my heritage. Hey, I'm caramel brown with a big afro! No stranger is going to look at me and say, "That woman must have some Irish ancestry." or "I'll bet that woman has a white partner waiting on her at home." To some people, because of my skin color and hair type, I should just call myself black and that's it. And, you know, when I post on predominantly white forums, it's easy for me to understand why so many people of color feel that way.
The world I live in is one that constantly centers whiteness. Do you know what I mean? I'm asking sincerely because it's the only way you can understand the rest of what I'm saying. In a system where whiteness is centered and the white, Western world is positioned as the normative culture, there will always be more than enough people around praising white women and men. White women and their cultural icons are in no danger of being forgotten.
I have yet to see an American school textbook that mentioned women's rights without including the names and accomplishments of at least Susan B. Anthony and Elizabeth Cady Stanton. However, how many of them mention the fact that until Europeans colonized this country, women were already enjoying the rights that Stanton and Anthony fought for plus many more? Can you understand why that's problematic, at the very least?
Living in a place like this one, where those that look like you are regularly acknowledged and praised, there is a real dearth of places where the idea of decentering whiteness even gets introduced. As a woman of color raising a woman of color, I want the odds that she will be able to live in a world where whiteness is decentered to be a lot greater than they are now. That doesn't stand a chance at ever occurring unless people of color and our allies are willing to agitate for it just as the cultural icons of the white, Western world have agitated for the world that exists today.
For those whites who happen to read this, I'd like to ask you a question.
Do you really think that understanding this is the same thing as hating white people?