I really shouldn't have gone and read that article and the comments people left. I am crying and I know I shouldn't be. Everyone assumes that I'm immune to this sort of thing. I am, mostly. I mean, I've heard all sorts of ableist remarks in my lifetime, but what person with a disability hasn't? I can usually spit out of all sorts of sardonic responses when this stuff occurs. Everyone has something that you can use to shoot them down if they really get out of line. That's usually enough for interactions involving one person or a small group of people. However, I've never learned to be emotionally equipped to take the sort of hatred I just read without breaking down inside for a minute.
You know, people with disabilities really take a lot of shit off of people. We put up with the casual use of words like "retard", "nut job", "lunatic", "vegetable", every damned day. We generally don't go around blowing up any
Many of us just don't have the energy to fight every instance of injustice that we personally experience. Taking on the entire ableist system is more than most of us are willing to do. But here's the thing: Why should we have to do it? Why aren't YOU people fixing yourselves? Why should we have to stop you from trying to eliminate us completely?
And please don't give me that bullshit about it all just being a big misunderstanding. It's not. You know it and I know it. You hate us. You REALLY hate us. You teach your children to hate us. You blame us for making you hate us. It doesn't matter what we do. You'll hate us anyway. It doesn't even matter if we're related to you, even if you're the ones that made us the way we are. You want us to die or, better yet, never be born at all.
And you know what? I get it. I'm not going to be able to change your minds. Okay, then. But do you have to be so vicious about it? I mean, at least the most of the racists and classists are usually willing to keep their resentment to themselves. But you? No, you couldn't be that considerate. You grow indignant any time we dare point out the mere fact that we are, ya' know, human too.