Monday, November 19, 2007

She Asked For It

"Look, it's pretty simple, ladies. If you don't want to have regrettable sex or "get raped," quit getting trashed around trashy guys. Just like if you don't want to wreck your car, DON'T DRIVE DRUNK. "Rape" doesn't just happen in a vacuum. It takes 2 to tango and those situations can all be easily avoided if you just act like a lady."
--your everyday neighborhood rape apologist

I was child in elementary school spending the night by my friend's house. Our families belonged to the same church. We fell asleep on the floor while watching a movie in their den. In the early morning hours, her much older brother came in and raped me.

I was a little girl, a child. I was sleeping. I didn't drink alcohol. I didn't take drugs. I wasn't hanging out with a man of low character. I was hanging out with a girl (who was also in elementary school) from our church. My mother was friends with her mother and had been for a couple of years. They were a middle-class family living in a four bed-room, two-story house in a beautiful, safe neighborhood in New Orleans.

Feel free to tell me how a little girl who didn't even understand what sex was could be to blame because some sick bastard decided he was going to rape her.

Oh yeah, his name was John McNulty and he never served a day in jail even though I was not the first or last girl he raped.


Renegade Evolution said...

Bint: some people are just fucking morons. That's all there is to it. It also speaks so highly of men, too. "Oh, we're stupid sex crazed animals who just can't control ourselves when booze and skirts are in the room, and since we can't be trusted NOT to rape you...well don't wear a short skirt, and don't drink, or go out anywhere....BE A LADY because we're pathetic!"

Master Goldrocks said...

Well, I understand clearly about your story this time. I think in my country, Indonesia we also have to be aware about this because number of the women nor the child being like this was steadily increasing. We have to protect the one we love.

Don said...

Damn, alshamsa. That's messed up.


Props on including the predator's name - maybe can save the next woman from having to experience this animal.

Hahni said...

oh, birdeye is such an asshole. He's not even troll-status worthy, just your basic run of the mill idiot who thinks he knows something.

Anonymous said...

I just reported birdeye's site to Google Ads for a violation of their content protocols - "Violent content, racial intolerance, or advocacy against any individual, group, or organization". I'd say it advocates violence against women, don't you?

Thank you for your story. I'm so sorry.

Lisa Harney said...

Yeah, birdeye's ick, much like other MRAs I've come across. It's downright offensive the way they focus on trying to prove women wrong in every way possible.

It's just so much worse when they play with fire like this. Assholes.

bint alshamsa said...


thank you for reporting Birdeye's site. I'm going to do the same. It's a good idea.

bint alshamsa said...

I went back and forth about including his name but in the end, I just went with it. Why should I care about whether anyone else would approve or if it might embarrass his family.

Renegade Evolution said...

oh shit, we're reporting sites with questionable content now? I'm fucked.

I disagree with Byrd, but I don't agree with reporting him.

bint alshamsa said...

Hmmm... That's something to consider Ren. I'm going to have to think about that for a minute.

Renegade Evolution said...

Bint: I just don't like it, at all. Not that I am a huge fan, but a lot of MRA's have had their blogs reported and tossed (presumably by feminists) and frankly, I have seen equally ugly words and sentiments on feminists blogs...and if those blogs got tossed, everyoe would be in an uproar. I don't have to like or approve of what MRA's say, but well, they have as much of a right to speak their piece as any of us do. No one has to listen, but they have the right to type as they will in their own blogs.

Kevin Andre Elliott said...

That dude is a sick, racist, sexist fuck. No question about it. I wish we could just ignore the idiot, but unfortunately too many people take him seriously to not call him on his bullshit.

This whole "character" thing he's got going on really irritates me. The first rape I heard of, as a child, happened in my church and was committed by the son of the Pastor, supposedly a "man of character." I remember the service where the congregation "forgave him," i.e. "let him off the hook." This whole "character" nonsense is a smokescreen. Only shady dudes that wear leather and hang out in bars rape? Yeah right. If anything, it's the "men of character" like this fuckwad that you need to look out for, because they're the one's that are convinced that their actions are always right, that they know what's best, that your "no" really means "yes." And if they *are* reported, no one will believe you because they are "men of character." It must somehow be the woman's fault. She should have known better than to wear that sexy outfit to church! Nothing they ever do is wrong because they have "character."


As for reporting the site, the worst that would happen is that they would take his ads away. Blogger will not delete your site unless you're engaging in illegal activity or a spam blog. They might "unlist" you, take your blog off of their recently updated lists and your profile, but the blog will remain. If I remember correctly, for blogs that promote hate speech, they will put a "content warning" page up, but again, the blog will remain.

Ren, I'm willing to bet the ranch that your site has been "flagged" several times already by people that don't like you. I agree with your concern about reporting questionable content, but from what I understand, they are aware of the potential for abuse and act accordingly.

So you're safe. :)


Kevin Andre Elliott said...

"but a lot of MRA's have had their blogs reported and tossed"

I'm surprised to hear that. Not that I don't believe you, mind. Just surprised.

Maybe I'm too optimistic and naive about these things.

I agree tho. I'll talk shit about these people till the end of my days, but I don't think that their blogs should be taken down. That's just not right.

Renegade Evolution said...


Flagged, moi?

How Imperialist!

I feel as if Eddie Izzard is standing there saying "Yes, but do you have a flag???"


belledame222 said...

Bint: much love to you.

Byrdeye: die in a fire. Seriously.

I mean, after that shit he pulled at Anji's, nothing surprises me. He's just a loathsome little piece of slime mold.